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What we see and feel is not a reflection of what is happening around us. What we see from the outside is mostly a product of our brain’s processing and how it perceives certain sensations. There are several ways to trick the brain:

  • A special procedure called after Ganzfeld

It was invented in the 30s of the last century and called the soft sensing isolation technique. To carry out the procedure, tune the radio to interference, lie on the couch and stick the halves of table tennis balls on the eyes with adhesive plaster. After a minute, people begin to hear hallucinations. Someone hears a horse running, others hear that the souls of the dead are talking to them. It is our brain that invents its own emotions since it does not receive them from the outside.

  • Pain relief

To reduce the pain from a wound, you can look at it with binoculars in reverse, that is so that it decreases. Scientists from Oxford have proved that if you look at the wounded arm through the other end of the binoculars, it will decrease in size, which means that the pain will be less. This proves the connection between the sensations of pain and vision.

  • The Pinocchio illusion

Take 2 chairs and a blindfold. The subject is blindfolded and sits in the back seat with a glance at the other person in front. A blindfolded person can reach out and put it on the nose in front of the seated person. With his other hand, he touches his nose and rubs it. In a minute, more than half of the people claim that their nose has lengthened.

  • Deception of thinking

For this experiment, you need to raise your right leg low and start moving it clockwise. Simultaneously with this with the index finger of your right hand, draw a six in the air. Your leg will be unable to do anything and will begin to rotate counterclockwise. This is caused by the work of the left hemisphere of the brain, which is inherent in control of the right half of the body, as well as rhythm and synchronization. Because it does not cope with the work of two movements that contradict each other, it will strive to combine them into one.

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Doctors doing medical research on the human brain and testing blood samples.
  • Deception of hearing

This experiment requires 2 observers and 1 test subject. For the experiment, take headphones that are attached to two tubes on both sides. The subject sits on a chair between the observers, keeping an equal distance from them. The observers begin to speak in turn, each in his tube, and the listener determines the direction of the sound. If you swap the tubes and start talking again, the subject will indicate the wrong direction of the sound.

This is due to auditory localization, which is needed to determine the direction of the sound source by a person. Since the human hearing system has limited capabilities in determining the distance of the sound source, an intersonic difference is obtained in time. If you change the tubes, then the neurons on the opposite side of the brain are involved in the work, and the person will incorrectly determine the source of the sound.

  • The illusion of a rubber hand

This experiment was accidentally discovered by psychologists and proved that a person can consider a rubber hand as their own. Take a rubber hand or rubber glove and inflate it. You will also need a piece of cardboard and two paintbrushes. Put the rubber hand in front of you and hide yours behind the cardboard. Let the person helping you start brushing the brushes along with the real and the rubber hand at the same time, and after a few minutes, you will feel that the rubber hand also belongs to you. If at the same time your assistant hits the rubber hand, then you may even feel pain and anxiety.7. People under 20 years old can hear sound with a sine wave with a frequency of 18 thousand Hertz. This fact allows teenagers to use this sound as a ringtone on a mobile phone so that only they can hear this sound. This is because with age, a person begins to hear sounds of high frequency worse.

  • Purkinje effect

This is the name of a scientist who is considered the founder of modern neuroscience. As a child, he studied a special kind of hallucination, which was based on the rapid waving of his hands in front of closed eyes, while looking at the sun. After a couple of minutes, he saw figures of different colors, which were changing all the time and becoming more sophisticated.

On this fact, special glasses were created, which could turn on the light at a certain frequency. Due to the stimulation with light, a short circuit appeared in the visual cortex of the brain, and the cells themselves also lit up peculiarly and formed images.

Lifestyle & Success

Always busy running errands even during the quarantine?  Leading such a bustling lifestyle in the constantly changing and unpredictable world can be exhausting. Thus, chances are you’re familiar with the dampening sensation of laziness. It may occur suddenly or when you expect it; it may concern a task that needs to be done or an activity that seems to be desirable, like making a good meal. In this article, we will look behind the facade of a phenomenon called “laziness” and try to understand what is hidden behind it and why it prevents you from moving in a vigorous march toward your goals.

None of us has ever experienced living during the global pandemic of a new virus. Constantly staying in and not being able to visit your family or places is a huge load on the psyche. The brain processes it, and it may not have a resource for new knowledge.

So even now, how to do your best and actually focus on work? Let’s find out.

What Is Laziness: a Bad Habit, Lack Of Discipline Or…?

There are different points of view on this matter. You surely are familiar with the negative one, where the laziness is seen as a manifestation of weakness. However, there is a positive attitude toward indolence. For example, in positive psychotherapy, developed by Nossrat Peseschkian, it’s “the ability not to do too much” and is perceived as a totally normal state of the human body and mind. 

Basically, what we call laziness, is a signal coming from our psyche, carrying a message that we’re not willing to perform a certain activity. There are different causes of it, however. Thus, our task is to “unravel” the message of the idleness and take appropriate measures.

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The Root Cause

According to modern psychology, there’s only one reason for laziness – the mismatch of our intentions, goals, objectives, aspirations, to our true needs.  When our behavior is consistent with physical AND mental necessities, we don’t have any problems finishing that report or reading those emails: there’s no laziness, boredom, procrastination or any other forms of detachment and attempts to postpone the inevitable. We simply do what we have in mind. It is really easy. There is a well-known saying that proves it: “The most motivated person is the one who wants to use the bathroom.” We must agree that it is difficult to imagine someone like that being lazy.

The Intrapersonal Conflict

According to Noah Chomsky’s doctrine on dominance, for every person, only one need is relevant at a time, and all human behavior is subordinated to its satisfaction. If during this time a person sets an objective that is not consistent with the urgent need, the “center of dominance” in the cerebral cortex slows down the implementation of the task. Usually, in the form of laziness. In modern psychology, such a situation is called an intrapersonal conflict, the incompatibility of “wants” and  “needs.” Hence, laziness is a form of resistance of your body, which signals that you need to stop and rethink your priorities.

Overcoming Laziness Through Working With Your Needs

Self-reflection is always difficult and purely individual. However, a number of general recommendations will help to resolve the intrapersonal conflict and free up useful energy for reaching your goals.

Step 1: Listen to yourself

Often taking this step is enough to reduce stress and start catching up on with your daily plan.  Instead of updating your social media feed, try to take a short pause and ask yourself the question: “What do I need now?”
It can be difficult to answer the question, and there’s no need to rush. It is important to develop the habit of being attentive to your inner world, and sooner or later you will be able to reflect on your true needs. Notably, the purpose of asking this question is to take control of your laziness, so you will consciously decide when to work and when to rest.

Step 2: Acceptance

Instead of self-flagellation or attempts to “force” yourself, try to listen to your body and respond correctly. When you realize your true actual need, you will have to make a choice: satisfy or ignore it. It is important to decide responsibly: you must fully consider the consequences of your choice. Remember the following:

  • According to the 2019 study of The American Institute of Stress, disregarding your needs can lead to stress, anxiety and fatigue. 
  • By immediately making a choice in favor of satisfying your need, however, you might encounter a number of other consequences (like letting down your colleagues by not doing what you were asked for.) 

In general, the practice of conscious and responsible choice will save you not only from laziness but also from many other problems that give rise to intrapersonal conflicts.

Step 3: Applying adequate techniques

After you understand your needs and make a responsible choice, deal with it. To put it simply, three types of laziness can be distinguished: “I don’t want,” “I can’t” and “I don’t believe I can.” 

The “I don’t want” type occurs when a task doesn’t really look attractive to us (it is uninteresting for our Inner Child, we have no sincere desire to do this.) This option is frequent because nowadays our lifestyle is full of responsibilities we must commit to.

The “I can’t” arises when we don’t have enough physical or mental resources for doing something (for example, we are tired, hungry or too excited.) Such laziness comes for telling us there is no “fuel” for this activity now.  It’s like when you found a course you really want to take, but after a busy day, you don’t have the right amount of energy to concentrate on new information.
The “I don’t believe I can” laziness happens when we set incredibly high standards for ourselves (to do something without mistakes or better than everyone.) And then the so-called “perfectionist paralysis” arises, because the requirements are so impossible to accomplish that it’s easier to do nothing at all than to start and experience failure.

For the option “I don’t want”: 

  • Delegate the task to someone else; 
  • Increase its attractiveness (e.g. reward yourself for the accomplishment); 
  • Switch to an alternative (select an activity from your to-do list that you want to start right now, like “I don’t want to write an article, but I’m ready to do the cleaning”); 
  • Find a meaning (justify the usefulness of this piece of work and how it will allow you to be proud of yourself, look attractive in the eyes of others, etc.)

For the option “I can’t”: 

  • Find out what kind of resource are you currently lacking (strength, clarity of mind, patience, etc.) and how it can be replenished (right now you don’t feel like reading this email but after a cup of coffee, you’ll be ready); 
  • Postpone your deadline, take some rest and get down to work later.

For the option “I don’t believe I can’t”: 

  • Rethink the desired result – make it down-to-earth and realistic; 
  • Solve the problem “in pieces”. Instead of aiming to finish a paper in a week, offer yourself to write an introduction today, the first chapter – tomorrow, and so on. 
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And a Universal Tip

  • The Five-Second Rule

Whenever you feel unsure about completing a task, count from 5 to 1. According to Mel Robbins, such a tool will help you concentrate on a certain goal and get rid of anxiety, hesitation or negative thoughts.

Nowadays, social media make us think that every person during quarantine needs to get up at 5:00 a.m., then do yoga, prepare a healthy breakfast and devote the rest of the day to watching webinars and reading books. But that’s just social media. What do YOU want? In the end, laziness is not your enemy, but a great opportunity to actually listen to your desires. Maybe you don’t really need that second job you’ve been thinking about. Maybe it’s time to start pursuing your passion, even when no one understands it or if it sounds crazy. By doing what you truly love, you might eventually boost your productivity without reading a million advice and trying too hard. 

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“We speak different languages!” – that’s a phrase you’ve probably said to your partner or family members at least once in a lifetime. Sometimes two people simply cannot find a common ground, and their dialogues are reminiscent of a blind talking with a deaf. Without mutual understanding, people become more distant from each other, and that leads to frequent arguments, or worse – total detachment

Nowadays, due to the quarantine, we stay side by side with our loved ones around the clock. And this is not always easy. However, to keep your relationships alive, be it with a parent, or a romantic partner, you need to express your feelings. Even if you feel your thoughts are too tangled and too complicated to share. Even if you’re offended, disappointed or angry. Even when there’s an unresolved conflict you don’t want to go back to. 

Thus, in order to make your relationships with a close person thrive, follow these simple steps to bring the deepest thought into conversation. 

A “soft start”

A psychologist John Gottman found that the conversation most often ends with the same emotion it begins. If you rush into saying harsh words to your loved one – you actually leave them even more lonely.

Gottman offers a crucial concept: a soft start to the conversation. It means avoiding criticism, derogatory remarks, sarcasm, accusations, generalizations (you never … you always …) and the transition to the individual. Also, a soft start, in particular, is talking about yourself and your feelings. For example, instead of saying “It’s nonsense”,  answer “No, I don’t agree.”

Support yourself

In nonviolent communication practice, there is an algorithm for circumventing your “difficult” feelings. The basis of this algorithm is self-empathy, meaning recognizing and naming your feelings, unmet needs and self-compassion. Magically, when we say, “I’m in grief now,” our pain becomes bearable. Check it out for yourself!

Imagine that your beloved friend is in a critical situation. You would try to understand and sympathize with her/him, right? That’s exactly what you need to do for youreself, especially when you feel low.

“So, what exactly needs to be done?”

  • Become aware of your current body sensations (for example, chest tightness);
  • Ask yourself what you’re feeling right now;
  • Decide what is important for you (in life AND in relationships) and identify which your needs might be unsatisfied;
  • Think about the requests you have to yourself or others.

Let’s say, you’re telling an exciting story to your spouse, and he/she is not actively paying attention to you and instead is scrolling his social medium’s feed. 

What might be going on in your body? Rapid breathing or tension-type headache. 

What do you feel? Irritation, anger. 

What need is not met now? Having your spouse’s attention.

What is important to you? Your husband’s/ wife’s involvement and response. 

What request do you have for the partner? Looking at you when you say something.

Such self-reflection allows you to express your feelings in a more gentle way. Also, when we just allow ourselves to cool for a few seconds, the tension noticeably weakens. 

 

Remember the two main goals

What are the goals of a frank conversation about relationships? Psychologists do not recommend doing the following:

  • splash out the accumulated irritation;
  • hurt a partner;
  • prove yourself.

Then, what should be considered the right purpose of a conversation? Here are the two main goals, according to Gottman:

  • tell how you perceive and feel the current situation;
  • understand how your partner feels and perceives it.

Actually, there’s even a third goal, which is not always achievable, though. It is to agree on how to prevent such situations in the future. How to deal with contradictions in views, habits or desires. That is, come to a decision.

Alas, not all life situations can be predicted. Therefore, the third goal of the conversation, although attractive, is optional. If two main goals have been achieved, such a conversation will be healing.

 

Do not forget a simple wisdom: “Communication is the key.” Talk about your feelings! And listen, listen to yourself and others. This is the best way to get closer to people and the best way to understand what’s happening to you or your loved ones.